At the beginning of your relationship, everything looks flowery, you feel like crossing a rainbow on the back of a unicorn. But after a while, you start feeling some unpleasant tickles. Sometimes you laugh about it, and sometimes you start questioning everything. These questions can be triggered when your partner puts a Justin Bieber song in the car, or when you realize that they weren’t joking about being a WWE fan, or even worse: They order pizza with pineapple.
This next idea is a nice game that you can play when you start dating. It’s a shortcut to discovering your partner and knowing their different opinions from the beginning of the relationship.
To play this game you’ll need 30 yellow sticky notes and 30 with a different color.
Each partner gets a color. Use 10 notes for the next step and put aside 20.
On the sticky part of the notes, write down a topic on which you’d like to know your partner’s opinion. It can be anything: tattoos, crying, PDA, or Elon Musk…
Stick the note so that the empty side is up. Start opening the cards one by one. Each partner will place next to the card a rating from 1 to 5 depending on how much they like the topic. (use the 20 remaining cards for the ratings). The rating is also faced down and will be revealed at the end.
After rating all the subjects, start opening the cards and discussing the different opinions around each topic.
You’ll discover that each opinion has a story behind it, and your relationship will get stronger when you become aware of your differences and embrace them. It will help you discover where you two are aligned, and where you’re complimentary. It will also show if there is a misalignment in your fundamental values. You can then understand if you’re truly meant for each other or… you know… not.
Here's a full article that describes the game in detail and here's a peek at what the end of the game looked like for us.